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Comments:
Christina - 2004-09-27 20:01:15
God, I don't know how you do it all. If it was me, I would of cracked under all the stress. My life is not nearly as stressful as yours and I feel myself breaking down. I don't think that you are being insensitive at all, you are just being honest. Everyone needs to vent, and I can totally understand that you need too. I truly hope with all my heart that things get better for you.
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Marissa - 2004-09-27 22:32:09
I do not know how you put up with it. My husband did the job-bounce to when we first got together, but he's in the Army now, so it helps.
Is there anything you can get where you are? Government insurance for low-income families? Just a thought, I hope it helps.
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m - 2004-09-27 22:55:38
Of course he should have consulted you. When you are a couple, you make decisions as a couple. Lisa, you have been through so much ... I feel terrible for you and I will keep you in my thoughts.
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mommy - 2004-09-28 00:52:30
UGH You are partners he should have consulted you. Also when you become a PARENT you dont get to come first anymore. If you have to work a job you dont like - OH FUCKING WELL - GET OVER IT! Honestly - i think you are being nice about it.
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Des - 2004-09-28 01:01:07
You husband is a selfish SOB Lisa...period. And I understand staying with a man when you need him for finacial stability and etc...but he does not provide that for you. Three jobs already? Pretty soon no one will want to hire him, and who would blame them? And then what will you do? Go get a job and support HIS ass? What kind of stay at home "daddy" do you think he'd be?
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Kaire - 2004-09-28 07:48:50
~nothing to say but that I'm praying for you and the kids~
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andrea - 2004-09-28 08:50:08
Oh no. Don't EVEN think badly about yourself for thinking what you have been about the whole situation. DON'T EVEN GO THERE!!! You have EVERY right to feel how you do. Of course he should have consulted you about such a big decision. Wouldn't he have wanted you to consult him about any kind of big decision that YOU would have made that would have affected how much money you guys have in your bank account or the kind of healthcare your children would receive? Yeah... that's what I thought. Hang in there, lady!!! Good things happen to good people and your are way overdue for your payout. It'll get better. Just keep on hangin' in there.
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Pandionna - 2004-09-28 13:52:27
Sometimes I think you and I are married to the same man: So brilliant in so many ways, and yet so maddeningly impulsive.
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Jessica - 2004-09-28 14:14:54
I just started reading your diary. I am really enjoying it thus far. Sorry to hear about what your husband did today. He definitely should have consulted you and it definitely sounds like he quit before they fired him. I work in HR and have seen on many occassions how they can make employees' lives miserable before they let them go. I hope he finds a job soon... for yours and the kids sake. I look forward to reading more.
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kristin - 2004-09-28 19:32:36
my man just did the same thing, essentially. i thought i was a terrible bitch when i reacted similarly. well, it's nice to know, bitch or not (i tend to think not) he's not the only guy that acts like a total fool sometimes.
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LJ - 2004-09-29 12:49:55
I find I need to bite my tongue - I want to give advice (uneducated advice), but what you really need is support. You got that here. I don't know what I'd do in your situation, but my humaness says run, run, run, and create a safe home for your kids. But I'm not you, and my heart aches for what your trying to do. You are a very courageous and strong woman!
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Sharidyn - 2004-09-29 14:34:48
I am praying for you and your family. I pray for you that you find the strength to find your way through this and the strength to bear this. I pray for your kids that they will get what they need and what they deserve from this world. And I pray that your husband starts being a father and a husband and starts taking some responsibility. I hate my job too. I hate that I have to work. I hate that my boss likes to try and goade me into crying. But, my child needs to eat, and deserves a house and medical insurance. A parent does what needs to be done. A husband does whatever necessary to provide stability for his family. You are a strong woman. I read a quote from Mother Teresa somewhere, something to the effect that she knew that God never gave her more than she could handle, but that she wished He didn't trust her so much. You are being VERY saintly, Lisa.
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hallie - 2004-09-29 22:44:58
You are so completely right and so completely justified! I'm sure he is suffering from a lot of stress, but so are you. When your husband quits his job without warning you, doesn't even show recognition of the seriousness of the situation by asserting that he isn't concernd, and calls you names instead of dignifying yoru feelings... I'd say that he's putting you under quite a bit of extra stress. I'm incredibly impressed by your self control, and your ability to think about his feelings. You must be an amazing person. I think someone used teh word "saintly", and that sounds right to me.
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rachael - 2004-10-08 23:55:53
My husband pulled a stunt like that this past march. He went off, and signed up for the navy for 6 YEARS without telling me. I was livid, to say the least. We have a 3 year old son, and have been married for nearly 4 years, and he pulled this on me. Then he didn't understand why I left! Ha! We eventually worked it out, mostly because I refused to sign the papers for him to go in, and if you are married, you have to have your spouse's signature, heh. And also, divorce in texas isn't final for something like a year to three years, sometimes longer, with kids. You aren't alone here. I think everyone's husband has *or will* at some point make an unbelievably stupid decision, then expect you to "roll with the punches" *ask him how my punches roll :P * Hang in there, there is always (and i say this because i've been there...) government help for food, rent, etc. And if he says no way, and tells you that it isn't going to happen, give him a taste of his own medicine, and go for it. It's temporary, and if it feeds my kids, hey, i have no dignity. Hold your head up high, and have faith in something. You are well overdue for some TRUE happiness in your life.
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