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onelitcandle - 2004-02-29 15:39:48
Damn!!!! LOL And you know what I'm talking about! :) I love you!!!!!
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Poetical - 2004-03-02 11:15:24
I think you should trust him or not trust him but watching him is creepy. Thinking you need to is creepier. I understand more than you can imagine after having an ex-husband that cheated twice, but creepy is creepy. If you have to know what he's saying and to whom (mind you I've spoke to him online and he was a good boy I tell ya) then what's the point in the word "trust". Besides, if you don't trust him what if he goes off to the grocery store and sees a hot girl there....how in the world might you know what THAT conversation was like??? I mean....uh....yah don't you see??? You have got to either trust him or realize you can't and won't ever again and move on. This "watching" and "spyware" jazz freaks me out because it just says in bold neon words "I DON'T TRUST YOU ANYMORE". If he knows he's being watched he'll be good....but what about all the times you're not around, who's gonna report his behavior to you then? Bottom line...trust or get out. I know where you are, why you're there and he sucks for cheating, I told him that myself. Maybe in nicer words, but this issue irks me because I've lived it. I used to call my ex (when we were still married) constantly....and guess what? She was laughing at me the entire time. Laughing because while I was calling she was fucking him. Bottom line...trust or don't trust but spyware???? Hmm...wonder if they have "penisware" I see it now "Penisware for the times you can't be there yourself". ACK!!! Remember I'm outspoken and I say what I really think. Not trying to make an enemy but I also learned after affair number 1 that I was just like you, untrusting, bitching, whiney, scared...etc... guess what? He got tired of that shit and found someone that did trust him (albeit blindly...like a fool) and wham he was up and gone. Just my thoughts....
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Hallie - 2005-08-24 15:44:14
I realize this thread is really old, but trust issues are always ongoing ones, so I'm pretty sure that any conversation here will still be relevant. Poetical, you don't just trust someone or not trust someone. First, you decide whether or not you want to trust the person. If you do, because that person is worth the effort to you, then you do what you have to in order to trust again- including a little spying. It's not creepy if it's justified, or especially if it's helping.
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