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elizabeth - 2005-08-08 06:12:38
I think your word should very definitely count and i would be terribly hurt and upset if someone did that to me. Sorry.
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second-love - 2005-08-08 09:20:15
Having been a "step mom" for nearly 18 years, let me just say that you will ALWAYS be second in commmand, and truly as frustrating as it is, you want it that way. Because of my his/mine/ours situation... my hubby is ALSO 2nd in command when it comes to MY daughter and HE is a TERRIBLE 2nd. Constantly he is trying to be the one that is in charge and often we clash on what is right and what is wrong. Its a tough situation. There are few winners and FEW that succeed in making it work. Marriage and parenting truly was not designed for "step-parentdom". I dont envy your "in law" situation or whatever it is. How unbelievably rude to even get involved!!! Anyway Lisa, as hard as it is, your word WONT count when push comes to shove and i've learned to just accept it, otherwise you will always go round and round. And your step daughter will only learn to manipulate MORE. My step daughter was ruthless when she became a teenager. And really, its the only way they can pay their parents back for divorcing and messing up their family. Anyway... just one more way i can relate to you *sigh* Hang in there. I'm not even going to say "it'll get easier" cuz it probably wont - but know that i understand.
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Fightn4life - 2005-08-09 18:12:58
Please know I understand your pain and feeling of helplessness. I too am a stepmother of my hubby's five children. When we met, he had three of them at home. We had so many close break up's us merging his family with my three children. We had some trying years, as he was an out of state construction worker. I felt second fiddle as you do. The power of prayer is awesome. Some how through it all our marriage survived and I became stronger over the years. This is not an easy time for you but love will prevail. My prayers are with you and your wonderful little family. Sandyz
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LJ - 2005-08-09 18:22:20
YOU are a great step-mom! And don't you forget it. Kids, no matter if they are step or not, need to know boundaries. And particularly when grandparents forget their place. I hope you find the rest you both so richly need. LJ
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