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Amber - 2005-09-20 11:20:41
I would write her the letter. There comes a point in time when you have to be "selfish" and do what is best for YOU and YOUR sanity. It is her responsiblity to take care of herself. Good luck, hon.
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Grey Muse - 2005-09-20 13:26:27
Do we have the same mother? I agree with Amber, and go on to say that eventually you have to realise that your mother is the way she is and no amount of generousity or kindness on your part (or anyone's part) will change her til SHE wants to change. Accept her for being what she is, even if it's a complaining, oblivious-to-the-joys-in-her-life person. Though the next time she talks about hating her job, bring up casually "well I still think it was a nice gesture on ____'s part to get it for you, and you can always get hired on at your other company if it's SO bad!" . Fight grouchy unappreciation with sensible positive things. When I do this to my mother, she either shuts up because I refuse to let her drag me down to her dismal sulkishness, or she has a "hey...you're right!" moment and talks about pleasant things.
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Hallie - 2005-09-21 14:56:15
I admire the way you deal with your mother. I certainly know people like that, and I never know how to put boundaries in place.
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